My posts usually seem like a cry for Change, but the truth is i never believed
my tiny voice will ever be heard.
I know how i sound right now but it’s the truth. What possible change can my unpopular
blog bring to the world. That was the realist in me talking.
But this particular post, I wrote to bring a little hope
to someone, someone very dear to me “Abra Dangnan”.
I probably should have asked her if it was ok before
I published this post, but i have feelings to and i had to let them out somehow.
2011 should have been Abra's perfect year. She graduated
From the not so friendly university of benin, she's an ‘efiko’ so I like to call her, so trust me when
i say she did in flying colours, with the best friends anyone could ask for.
Everything was good she even got a bold 5 just cos she told her uncle she
had dreamt about it yes things where that good.
The but of the story comes in when Abra lost a brother and a cousin in
the space of three months, if u still think it’s not worth writing about, you
should read the next two lines.
Her cousin was shot!
A final yeah law student of the same school some days before his final paper.
I meet Abra only once in my life and almost did a second time, but
she's still my closest girlfriend we tell each other almost everything
we can chat for a whole day and not run out of small talk, so you know i mean it
when i say i love her very much and feel what she's feeling now.
She's the funniest girl I ever met, the reason i could easily feel the sadness in her
voice when she told me it had happened again on the 24th of December, her brother
died what a Christmas it was for her.
She says she has to be strong for her mum but who will be strong for her? her brother
just died just as she was getting over her cousin!
Abra always edits my post before everybody else read them, now I don’t even know
how to talk to her anymore the sadness in her voice and text kills the mood every time.
What am i talking about she just lost two close relatives she always said her
Cousin was like a brother to her.
Its Wednesday 28th December 2011, and i don’t know how to console my friend
even though she's acting all tough saying she's just fine.
I wanted to make it a R.I.P ending maybe put their names in the post, but i couldn’t
bring myself to ask her for their full names so I’ll just end this with this
quote I love so much "your finger print will never fade from the lives
you touch". I hope they are both looking down smiling cos their in a
better place, and I pray God gives Abra's family the strength to deal with
their loss.
Death is inevitable no one knows when its going to happen, but really sad when it
Comes prematurely. I know she'll get through this ok I pray this sad experience
Makes her family stronger.
The thing about death is that it will happen, and no one can stop or control it. Also, there is no consolation in words because they are merely words. Anything anyone says to your friend right now won't mean much to her if it doesn't bring back two people she loved.
ReplyDeleteBut what I can say to you is: BE THERE. Understand,and tell her, that you can't replace them in her life, but you want to be there for her, help her carry the cross, remind her that there are people worth living for, and that time will suppress the pain, but only a long time.
I never knew what it was like to lose someone until I lost a friend and I've come to terms with death in such a way that if any other person were to die, I will know how to handle it.. But it hurts.There's nothing that can stop the hurt, and you can't stop her from hurting.. But you can be there for her, let her know that it's okay and that she should be happy for the dead. When people die, they're going to a world outside of this, so why should we be sad?
Rest their souls.
Thanks very much i'll do just that.... sorry for your loss
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